14 February 2012

Top 10 Things We’ll Miss About Living in Africa

Number 10:  Living in a house blasting the same gospel CD every Sunday evening


Number 9.  Seeing our high school alma mata on a faded T-shirt worn by some one neither of us graduated with….Yeah Class of ’99 (or ’98)


Number 8: Intimacy of Matatu rides….and their efficiency, who knew that 23 people can fit into one of those things?

Fantasy Ride it was not


Number 7:  Practicing the artful ways of walking the streets of Kampala…Watch out … for the … hooooooole!

Josh's walk to work circumvented these obstacles


Number 6:  The sweet, sweet tastes of mangos, avocados, and pineapples all for a price WallMart can’t even beat.  While we’re on the food thing, we’ll also miss blending African and more familiar foods for a fine stay-at-home dinner…Do I smell chapati pizza?




Number 5:  Eight hour bus rides on the day before Christmas.  Not your average East African bus ride.  During the Christmas time of year the bus has about one live chicken for every 2.5 persons by the time it pulls into Kampala

Live chickens one for 20,000, two for 35,000


 Number  4:  Straight men holding hands



Number 3:  Backpacks and tote bags, What!  We have heads and bicycles for that sort of thing.



Number  2:  Celebrity status….Muzungu! Muzungu!



And the Number 1 Thing We’ll Miss About Living in Africa:  SAWA SAWA SAWA YEAH…everywhere we go, over and over and over again.




Of course, let’s not forget the sunsets

13 January 2012

Our Last Day in Africa


2 January, 2012

The sun was shining bright this morning as we awoke for our last day in Africa.  Here in Kigali we can still hear the sounds of birds laughing at us, and smell the crisp fresh air—for some reason it doesn’t seem to be as polluted as other East African countries.  The Monday following New Years Eve (when New Years falls on a weekend) is a holiday—so we were told the genocide memorial sites would be closed (these are churches where many Tutsis sought refuge thinking they would be safe, but instead were the site of mass murders by the Hutus).  We were slightly bummed, as there is not much else to do in Kigali.  Although we had already spent a good part of the day at the Genocide Memorial Museum in Kigali before heading to the gorillas, we were told the other sites are extremely powerful as well and worth the trek.

After breakfast we took a walk up, up, and up some more.  I can’t help but think that these Rwandans must have some nice looking calves, probably all the Rwandans do in this hilly nation.   After some debate and talking to travel agents who had no idea as to whether or not the sites were open today we decided to give it a go.  After all, we’re in Rwanda and even if the sites were closed, it would be an adventure and surely worth the trip.

Since spending $80 on a private taxi isn’t really our style, we headed to the taxi park (here they call it bus park) with a few location pronoun pronunciations at the tip of our tongues ready to inquire about our destination.  Two muzungus walk into the Kigali bus park with no luggage and they are going to one place.  “Nyamata, here!”  We were shown a matatu just about fully occupied ready to take us in.  Are all these people going to the memorial sites?  Turns out, there are a lot of other reasons to go to this town. 

After a beautiful 50-minute ride, we arrived at the tiny town of Nyamata in the Bugasero district.  Although no part of Rwanda was spared in the genocide, the Bugesero district was hardest hit due to the high concentration of Tutsi people living there.  Back during the first few genocides in the area, around the 1950s, they were in some ways banished to the area, because of its high concentration of wild buffalo, elephant and other dangerous animals.  The Tutsi people, over the years, built a nice place for themselves in the Bugasero area.  From the town center, we hopped on a couple of “motos” (motor bikes) and the drivers escorted us to the first site.  On a money-saving side note, we ended up spending $16 on transportation (and met some interesting locals along the way not to mention the scenic and exhilarating moto ride), and decided that we need to re-write the guidebooks. 

We drove about 5 minutes to the main Nyamata church.  It had purple and white ribbons around the building and its columns.  Inside there were the triangle flags hanging from string sloping between the building’s support beams (these were also in purple and white, but were of the same type that we see at car dealerships).  I will admit that my naïve initial thought was that this was in anticipation of a wedding celebration, as it did resemble the decorations of the one African wedding I attended.  I was very wrong.

There is very much an exhibit here—and it is very disturbing.  The objects on display are in the open: clothing, bones, jewelry worn by victims, pens, student notebooks, machetes used to kill thousands of people, and a stick used to torture and brutalize women in the worst way imaginable.

The glass encasement surrounding the bones was open, the mass graves are still receiving remains.  In one part of our tour there were two bags with a typed name on a single sheet of paper.  One bag was filled with human remains, the other held the clothing of the victim, who, like many, was hiding in the field where he was killed on the spot, undiscovered until yesterday (17 years later).  Apparently this is a common scenario. A past so near you can touch it.

Much like my grandmother once led a group of visitors to the Birkenau concentration camp and told them the layout of the camp and how events occurred there, our guide at the second church we visited was a survivor.  He is a Tutsi, the group that was the focus of the genocide, who hid in a swamp for two weeks after his father was shot dead in front of their house walking in for lunch.  Our guide fled, narrowly escaping more bullets fired into their property.  He ran and never saw his mother and all but one of his brothers again.  He heard the grenade explosions at the church we were at that are still evident by the jagged gaping holes decorating its walls. 

In Nyamata the first evidence of the massacre is the exposed brick beneath the cement ground just outside the threshold.  The black security swinging gate is missing some of its crossbars.  The explosions around and in the church are a consequence of victims in the church staving off their eventual killers for a few days until backup (the government soldiers in this case) was called and grenades and guns arrived at the site.  Both guides made a point to emphasize the role the government played in carrying out the genocide.  Civilians, who made up both the militia and the victims, were not allowed to carry firearms. 

In both church memorial sites clothing was a prominent feature on display.  The clothing on the inside of the Naymaya church lay on benches.  Heaps of clothing are piled so that you cannot see the several layers on the bottom.  Once inside, visitors are surrounded by articles of clothing worn by the victims the day they were killed.  In the back, between the two entrances is a large alcove piled with the clothes children were wearing.  When adults realized that the end for them was imminent, they begged mercy for the children and babies, separating them in another part of the church where they huddled together.  No mercy was shown, instead children and babies were killed in the most gruesome manner: the killers held their leg and smashed them against the wall.

The shirts and dresses, once full of color and life, look like old dirty rags.  Everything was blood-soaked immediately after the massacre, so all the articles have a similar brownish stale color to them.  The floors, we were told, was a large pool of blood.

The ceiling also has bloodstains as grenade explosions left pieces shooting through the ceiling.    The evidence of this event is everywhere.

Relatives of the victims dug mass gravesites both inside the Nyamata church and immediately behind.  There are hundreds of skulls—some depicting exactly how each individual probably perished.  Mostly, there are machete wounds on the skulls, sometimes a skull shows a gaping hole in the head or where the eye socket was.  One skull had a bullet or the tip of a spear still lodged inside it.

Ten thousand people lost their lives at one church over two days, five thousand at the second, also over two days.  Thousands of Tutsis gathered in the church thinking that it would be a safe haven as it had been in past Tutsi killing sprees—surely other Christians would not murder people in the house of God.  Instead this place of peace became an easy target for the murderers as there was nowhere to run. To make this already nauseating story worse—neighbors, classmates, and friends were committing the killings.  The efficiency of the 100 days of genocide in 1994, resulting in the death of 800,000 innocent people was largely because the killers were part of the community, all over the country, each one having inside information.  Hutus were the majority of the population, and had deliberately and systematically been brainwashed by the government in preparation for the genocide.  There was nowhere to run.

At the second site we visited, after our tour concluded, I asked the guide what he thought when seeing victims of the genocide with missing limbs (many of whom beg for money)?  He mentioned something about the importance of being present for those absent and not absent in one’s presence.  He went on to tell us that he often gives motivational talks to young survivors about the importance of looking toward a bright future instead of letting their ideas and spirit be drowned in the wake of the terrible genocide  He is trying to be an honest, stand-up person who exudes the gentleness and fortitude of his lost parents.  He built a new house on the same site of the destroyed home he was raised in.  He is married and now has a daughter.  He is the presence of the victims and tries to embody their best characteristics.   

It is a very sad, terrible, and unimaginable event to scar such a beautiful country.  The paradox between it’s gorgeous lush rolling hills that rumble along to the sunset and the ugliness of what happened in those hills is hard to ever fully understand. Rwanda is now one of the safest and most developed countries in Africa.  The new government has made valiant efforts to erase the Tutsi and Hutu labels.  Now all Rwandans are Rwandans.  While that doesn’t make what happened any easier to digest, it does provide hope for a more peaceful future.

Gorillas, well, in the Mist


28 December, 2011


The Great Rift Valley in the morning haze

Susa Gorilla resting before lunchtime

Today we checked off another item on the Once-in-a-Lifetime Things to do in Africa list.  We saw firsthand the species with which our DNA most resembles, the great (and lazy) mountain gorilla.  That gorilla trek was pretty incredible.  We started out with the intention of fitting ourselves into a group that had a challenging hike before encountering the furry guys.  That was easy.  Our group assignment was the Susa group, the largest family.  The same family Diane Fossy studied in what became the well known flick, with a title that shares that of this post.  This family also happens to have three silverbacks, about 400 pounds of black furry brawn testosterone, and a set of two month old twins.  Needless to say, at the start of the day, we were excited.

After an hour drive to some area near where they like to roam, we embarked on a fast-paced uphill climb through farmland and many waving kids screaming, or just learning to say, Bonjour!  (Oh yes, one of the three Rwandan national languages is French, it is a little odd skipping around Africa and hearing a variety of Western languages.)  The steep, and sometimes rocky climb, came to a pause at the entrance to the actual Parc de Volcanoes.  It got dark and vine-y real fast.  We didn’t have to go as far as we anticipated before we ran into the trackers—the guys who set out at some ridiculous hour in the morning to find the gorilla family, who also stick around and protect the gorillas after we view them for the rest of the day until they nest for slumber. It’s reassuring to know that our money is going to protect the species as well as for our enamorment and enjoyment.

Sitting in the trampled fauna of the forest the Susa family were seemingly waiting for us, or at least that’s what we like to believe.  They were resting, napping perhaps, before their big lunch of bamboo and leaves—they’re vegetarians, save for the ants they eat for protein. 



The first 20 minutes we were watching them laze around, and sometimes pick at each other.  We saw a mama carry one of the newborns on her back, and were fortunate enough to have them both look our way.


The second silverback (not the clan leader) bounded away and the rest of them seemed to disappear as well.  We followed the silverback to our right and watched him commence lunch.

Bon apetit, Mr. Silverback

Our guide led us back up the way, through the now empty area where we first saw about sixteen Susa, and around a tree.  There was one juvenile up in a tree, another few eating right in front of us, the silverback, clan leader, scratching himself and picking ants out of his toes, and a few more soon joined the party.

I once had the seven year itch….I scratched real hard and got rid of it in three and a half years.

Quicker than a late season episode of The Wire, our time was up and it we had to say goodbyes.  It was incredible to see these mountain beasts in their element, so indifferent to us visitors whispering and snapping hundreds of photos.  As Nicole said, he looks like a man in a gorilla suit.  They are formed just like us: their mouths, fingers, and movements all so similar to ours.    Not much else to say.  You should go try it when you have a chance.

And like that, our adventures are nearing an end.  We are heading out to Lake Kivu in the western part of the country for the next three nights, then we start our journey to the Promised Land.

03 January 2012

A Meeting with Sex Workers in Kampala

2 December, 2011 (from the archive)

Who’s a tougher crowd—sex workers in the slums of Kampala or teens in the South Bronx?  I’m still not sure.

Yesterday proved to be quite an eventful. day  My NGO works with several community based organizations (CBO’s) to more effectively accomplish our mission.  We train peer educators, provide resources and encourage communities to help themselves.  In this manner, ideally, a community is more invested in seeing projects through.

One of my tasks here is to “strengthen our relationship with HIV/AIDS prevention CBO’s.  So, I figured the best way to do this would be to meet with the head of a CBO and figure out their needs and then visit their community, one of the worst slums in Kampala.  Our meeting with the leader of the CBO went well, he was excited of the prospect of white people coming to talk to his community. 

In the hours leading up to our visit, I was trying come up with a an effective lesson plan for this community.  I decided that both a male condom demonstration and female condom demonstration were essential. And since EVERYONE talks about HIV/AIDS, I decided to focus on all the other STIs that are common here.

The team and I packed into the company car and we set off for Bwaise.  When we arrived at what we thought was the office, we were warmly greeted by a man named George who took us up some stairs and into a very modest office.  We quickly learned that we were in the wrong place—the office of a different NGO, but an admirable one at that.   Where I come from the normal courtesy would be to excuse ourselves and go on our merry way concerned about being late for our engagement, but here in Uganda there is no way to make a quick exit, and people are not caught up in the constraints of time.  We were given packets of information about the NGO, learned about their cause and brainstormed ways we can partner with them in future activities.  We learned, the NGO helps children with severe congenital problems find funding to have surgery in India.  Before we left, George, the director showed us their next case, an 8 month old boy whose heart is on the outside of his body. He is leaving for India on Saturday for surgery.  Fingers crossed all goes well. It was crazy.  I have never seen anything like that.

When we finally left our new friends (and potential new partners) at Action for Disadvantaged People, an hour had passed.  We found a leader of the CBO who directed us through the back of a slum, past people cooking and cleaning (all of whom exclaimed “muzungu! muzungu!” and touch me) to a small shack of a place.  We found out later that our meeting was being held in the local brothel.

About 20 people (mostly sex workers and a few men from the community) were waiting for us.  Another 20 people came and went during the session and many others poked their heads in periodically through a small window.   The women were extremely attentive and inquisitive, but with a tough affect and demeanor.  One of the first questions that came my way was “Why did you white people bring AIDS here?”  Wow—turns out this is a common myth, which I quickly dispelled.  Next question please: “Why are you white people hiding the cure to AIDS?”  Wow again.  I’m still not sure that they believed me when I told them people die of AIDS in America, too.  And I know they don’t believe me when I say there are poor people in America.  After navigating such questions, I won over the crowd with my condom presentation and showing them pictures of STDs.  It was quite a sobering moment when a hand shot up while I was talking about HPV and how it can cause cervical cancer,  “What is cancer?,” she asked.  A prime example of the stark contrast between our worlds.

After the presentation was over, and all questions were asked and answered, one of my colleagues went to get refreshments that we had promised the attendees.  One of the women followed him and said matter-of-factly, “Don’t get us soda—we’d prefer beer.”  At that moment, I couldn’t have agreed more!